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That’s a Lot of Names for One Mitzvah Ceremony!<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Bar Mitzvah. Bat Mitzvah. B’nai Mitzvah. B’not Mitzvah. There are a lot of terms used to describe the ceremony in which a child comes of age and observes the 613 mitzvot or commandments in the Torah. While you would be considered a preteen or teenager in the secular world, according to Jewish law, a girl or boy is now viewed as an adult and must take on responsibilities in the community. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you don\u2019t speak Hebrew, the various terms used to describe this important Jewish lifecycle event might be a tad confusing. So, I\u2019ll quickly define Bar Mitzvah, Bat Mitzvah, B\u2019nai Mitzvah, and B\u2019not Mitzvah before we delve deeper into what each term means.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
B\u2019not vs. B’nai Mitzvah & Bar vs. Bat Mitzvah: The Short Answer<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Bar Mitzvah refers to a Jewish coming of age ritual for boys at age 13. A Bat Mitzvah is the equivalent for girls; however, their Bat Mitzvah will occur at either 12 or 13 years old, depending on the religious movement the family belongs to. Traditionally, a girl becomes at Bat Mitzvah at age 12 in Conservative and Orthodox communities and at age 13 in Reform synagogues. B\u2019nai Mitzvah is the plural form of Bar and Bat Mitzvah. While it\u2019s technically the plural masculine form in Hebrew, you could be referring to either two boys or a boy and a girl coming of age when using the term B\u2019nai Mitzvah. B’nai Mitzvah or B Mitzvah can also be used for someone who prefers a gender neutral service. B\u2019not is also a plural form — the feminine form — so B’not Mitzvah strictly refers to two girls, both of whom are becoming a Bat Mitzvah, and perhaps sharing a mitzvah ceremony. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
B\u2019nai Mitzvah vs. B\u2019nei Mitzvah: Is there a difference?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
There is no difference between these two words. The Hebrew vowel underneath the NUN or the \u201cn\u201d sound in B’nai\/B’nei (\u05d1\u05b0\u05bc\u05e0\u05b5<\/strong>\u05d9) is called a tzerei. This vowel can be spelled phonetically in multiple ways. You will often see it transliterated as ei or ai or ay, although nobody spells it B\u2019nay Mitzvah. Neither the \u201cei\u201d nor the \u201cai\u201d spelling is more correct than the other.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You\u2019ll find numerous examples of both B\u2019nai and B\u2019nei Mitzvah being used, but if you are still unsure of which spelling you would like to go with, I encourage you to see how your synagogue website chooses to spell it. Both versions are so common that I actually purchased both website domains — bna<\/strong>imitzvahacademy.com and bne<\/strong>imitzvahacademy.com — so that there wouldn\u2019t be any confusion for people who were trying to find my website online.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
What is a Bar Mitzvah?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Bar (\u05d1\u05b7\u05bc\u05e8) = Son in Aramaic<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The word Bar (\u05d1\u05b7\u05bc\u05e8) means son in the semitic language, Aramaic, because that was the spoken language when Bar Mitzvah ceremonies were first performed. So, we stick with Bar Mitzvah even if the word son in Hebrew is Ben (\u05d1\u05b5\u05bc\u05df).<\/p>\n\n\n\n
While Bar Mitzvah literally translates to son of commandment, the true significance is that the boy (son) becomes subject to the Torah\u2019s commandments when he becomes a Bar Mitzvah. The ceremony is usually held on the first Shabbat after a boy’s 13th birthday. According to Jewish law, the boy is technically required to follow all 613 commandments whether he has a ceremony or not. In other words, you can’t get out of it! <\/p>\n\n\n\n
What is a Bat Mitzvah?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Bat (\u05d1\u05b7\u05bc\u05ea) = Daughter<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bat directly translates to daughter in Hebrew. Bat Mitzvah ceremonies were not performed back in the days when the semitic language, Aramaic, was spoken, so the Hebrew word for daughter is used instead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It took quite a while for girls to celebrate a Bat Mitzvah. The first-known Bat Mitzvah in North America was that of Judith Kaplan, the daughter of renowned rabbi, Mordecai Kaplan, in 1921. But, Bat Mitzvah ceremonies didn\u2019t become commonplace after that. It wasn’t until the 70s and 80s that Bat Mitzvahs became popular.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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What is a B\u2019nai Mitzvah?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
What does B’nai Mitzvah mean? There are a few different scenarios in which you would attend a B\u2019nai Mitzvah ceremony. You might go to a service where twins — a boy and a girl or two boys — are having their B\u2019nai Mitzvahs together. Family members who are twins wouldn\u2019t have separate ceremonies. But, it\u2019s also possible for two people who are not related to share a service. This is common at larger synagogues who have over 50 students becoming a B\u2019nai Mitzvah each year.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n
How to Pronounce B\u2019nai Mitzvah:<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Say “b” like you are explaining the sound the English letter “B” makes. “Nai” should sound like the first syllable of the word neighbor or the sound a horse makes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
What is a B\u2019not Mitzvah?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
You would attend a B\u2019not Mitzvah service if there were twins from the same family becoming B\u2019not Mitzvah. However, it’s not a given that these girls would be twins, because girls can have their Bat Mitzvah at age 12 or 13. These two sisters might just be very close in age. You could also attend a B’not Mitzvah if two girls from different families share a service. These two girls don\u2019t have to be related; they could simply belong to the same synagogue.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
How to Pronounce B\u2019not Mitzvah:<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Say “b” like you are explaining the sound the English letter “B” makes. “Not” should actually sound like note, the small pieces of paper you might get in trouble for passing around in class. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
What happens at a B\u2019nai Mitzvah?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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